DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: DR. RO KNOWS: Chris Brown-shame on you for trivializing your violent abuse of Rihanna

By: Dr. Rosetta Stith

Chris: it is apparent from your comment about Rihanna speaking out that your community service and other mandates by the Judge after three years, that you are lacking something which is very important-respect and humility towards women.

For the remaining two years of probation, perhaps you need to change your lane, visit shelters for battered and abused women, and families who lost their mothers, grandmothers, and other loved ones because of domestic abuse and violence by men like you.

 Your comment: “I am tired of Rihanna talking about this, she needs to let this go, “ is easy for you to say because mentally you want it to go away. But, for Rihanna, it is not that easy. Forgiving and forgetting comes with time and results from appropriate help and counseling. Apparently, she is not there yet.

Is ‘this’ all that the horrible incident of violence means to you as a person, celebrity, and a young African American man which has been a successful entertainer?

I wonder if you would still feel the same way if ‘this’ had happened to your sister or mother?

It is said: ‘you need to check your self’ regarding your concerns about Rihanna retelling her story about  your violent abuse and explosive temper before you wreck yourself and your career again, remember?

 

 

 

     

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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: DR. RO KNOWS: In her widely viewed interview with Oprah, Rihanna was the face of millions of abused women

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By: Dr. Rosetta Stith

And, those women even today endure the ravages of domestic abuse and violence!

Rihanna’s ordeal will help leverage bipartisan political support to renew funding for the Violence Against Women Act. Her tragic experience with violence,  like the experience of other women,  is real and horribly everlasting.

I commend Rihanna for her courage and openness which enabled her to recount her ordeal for all of America to hear; and, which included a salient factor-Chris Brown, her abuser, needs help. The need for help and counseling applies to other men who are abusers.

Her tears reflect hurtful memories of the brutal assault which  still pervades her heart and mind.  Like Rihanna, many abused women have those memories. As survivors, abused women continue to be abused.

Rihanna did what many women should do, but do not do enough. She reported this violent incident to the police. She got on the road of healing herself by recognizing that it was not her fault because Chris Brown needs appropriate behavioral/ domestic counseling.

Thank you Oprah!

Your interview will serve as a poignant reminder that as women, we have rights and a support system to deal with a domestic violence crisis including programs, relatives, and friends. Your show gave us a critical path to follow to end this level of violence.

And for Rihanna:  It’s  I Can, You Can, We Can!

Way to go!!

I have a message for expectant and parenting young mothers who have been abused.

As the former Director of The Paquin School for Expectant and Parenting Adolescents and Their Children, which was a Baltimore City Public Middle/ Secondary High School for Girls, on-site Pre-School Programs for their children,  and  part of my experience included teaching young  girls, other women in their families, boyfriends, and young fathers that violence should not be a part of their family life.

Remember, if you are the victim of abuse, you have rights.

First, call the police and report the abuse.

Second, embrace and reach out to your family and friends.

Third, take advantage of the physical and mental health programs and prevention programs, like those which were offered at Paquin, with a staff of appropriate professionals who can help you.

One of  life’s values taught at Paquin which you should embrace is that besides the importance of your education and the welfare of your child, the fact that even though we were not born together, as women we are better working together!

ELECTION 2012: DR. RO KNOWS: if women do not vote on November 6th, could we lose the women centered reforms we recently gained?

By: Dr. Rosetta Stith

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English: PA: Lilly Ledbetter Visits Pittsburgh to Discuss Why Barack Obama is the Best Candidate for Working Families (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Ladies, The 2012 Election On Tuesday, November 6th Is Ours To Lose If We Do Not Vote                                                                

As women, we must continue to be mindful of the health programs and services that we will continue to need for ourselves, our children, and our families.

What does mean?

We must make every effort to share this important health information with our families and friends, and emphasize the importance of voting on November 6th.

Remember if we do not vote, we will surly get the candidate we did not want in the White House who may not value or understand the needs of women.

See you at the voting booths.

 

The Lilly Ledbetter Fair Pay Act of 2009, A Bill In The Right Direction For Women

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          This The ‘fair pay act’ for women became effective on  January 29, 2006.

President Obama   championed  this bill and Lilly Ledbetter’s cause knowing the  financial needs of women.

This was the ‘first  act’ he signed as President of the United States.

If the White House and the Congress change hands, could we lose it?

We will not if we vote!

                                                                                                                                

Violence Against Women Act of 1994 (VAWA)”                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              

This act was signed into law by President Clifton on September 13, 1994 to address  domestic, sexual, dating violence and stalking.

This act was reauthorized by Congress 2000, and again in December 2005.

The act was due again for renewal this year, but was not renewed before the Congress recessed. There is no certainty it will be renewed after the election.

Specific programs and services to be renewed this year are:                                                                                   

*Community violence prevention programs

* Protection for victims who are evicted from the homes because of events related to domestic violence or stalking

*Funding for victim assistance services, like rape crisis centers and hotlines

* Programs to meet the needs of immigrant women and women of different  races or ethnicities

*Programs  and services for victims with disabilities, and Legal Aid for survivors.    

Due to importance of this act and the programs and services  it provides for women, and its renewal  this year, 2012, which may be stalled, the situation gives us another reason to vote this November.

For the hundreds of women who were able to use these services and programs to renew their lives or families , and for those who have friends and family members  who need, or were saved by this act, we have another reason to show up, to stand up, and to vote  on November 6th.

See you at the voting polls!!!                                                                    

 

LONDON 2012 OLYMPICS: the high school girl wonders!

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Missy Franklin (Photo credit: jdlasica)

By: Dr. Rosetta Stith                                        

Katie Ledecky, who recently turned  15 years old this past March, from Bethesda, Maryland, is the youngest high school member of the United States Olympic Team,  and new  comer on the international scene.

She astonished onlookers when she won her first major international event from start to finish in the  Women’s  800 Meter Free Style Final last Friday, August 3, 2012 breaking Janet Evans 23 year old record in 8 minutes, 14.63 seconds.

A half second from breaking  the world recordMissy Franklin, 17 years old maintained utter dominance to win the 200 meter backstroke, and breaking the world record, and defeating the second –place finisher by nearly two seconds!  

There’s only one word to describe their accomplishments for the United States 2012 Olympic Teams, their families, friends, and their states:

WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  

The best part and value of these competitions for girls and women, is that there is more to come in future years. We need to give them our full support.

My last words: ‘Let’s Hear It For Our Girls And Women.’

WOMEN: Do not forget to encourage our younger girls to watch important sports events with you.

Ask them who was their favorite and why?

You may be surprised at what they will say, that is how it begins. 

Ask someone who knows: Ms. Natalie Hawkins, Gabrielle Douglas’ mother!

LONDON 2012 OLYMPICS: Michael Phelps- A Man For All Seasons- Awarded the “ Greatest Olympic Athlete of All Times” for his 2012 Olympic legacy in London”

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                            By: Dr. Rosetta Stith                                                                                                                                                                                      

In some games it’s: “‘3 strikes’ and you are out!”

Not true for Michael Phelps, a young Baltimore  man who has earned three consecutive wins for the same swimming event, the 200 Meters Individual Medley. It has made him an international hero, and a shining athletic Olympic Star for the World, the United States, and his home State of Maryland.

Hats off to his wonderful and loving mother, Ms. Debbie Davisson Phelps,  and his supportive family and friends for the love and support which have allowed him to grow as a young boy and a strong young man. He was enabled to face the growing changes that life brings to our youth. He developed a positive message to disregard and understand unacceptable behaviors, apologize where needed, and continue to move forward as he has done for his self, his family, and his global fans.

That was apparent from the touching moments when he was captured on television networks looking at his family in the stands for their visual support and applause.

Phelps has earned 22 Olympic Medals from three consecutive Olympic Events (2004-Athens, 2008-Beijing, and 2012-London)

His final words to his family, his fans and the sport, “ I  did it!”

Congratulations, way to go Mr. Phelps!

You made us proud again as you now move on to new life ventures, chosen life paths, and your continual support to provide opportunities to teach children to learn how to swim just like you.

To me, this is a needed and valuable life lesson for them, because our children ‘must see to be’ if they are to learn, grow, see and appreciate what you have earned and accomplished.

They will want to be just like you!

I cannot think of a better person to provide and leave this path for children who want to put ‘sport’s on their list of things ’to learn and do’ so that they can be just like you!

Thank you, for all that you do, and your recent success could not have happened to a better person and role model!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        

GABBY DOUGLAS: DR. RO KNOWS: 16 year old African American gymnast, an American hero who made us proud, and an enduring and history making role model for young girls especially black girls to follow

Gabby Douglas

By: Dr. Rosetta Stith

Gabrielle Douglas, a young lady just 16 years of age  captured our hearts and made us  all proud of her as America’s golden girl.  She is the first African-American  to win the Women’s All Around Gymnastics Competition at  London’s 2012 Olympics.

She did not quit, even though she had  enough hardships to overcome in her young life, and other reasons to do so. However, she was driven and wanted to seize the moment, and wow did she do it! She is only one of three women to reach this level of Olympic success.

What is also phenomenal about ‘Gabby’, is that she is 16 years old, still in high school, and is now America’s Newest Golden Girl.

How will she handle of all the fame, media attention, upcoming endorsements and branding offers?

I think this new fame will not become a problem because of her strong bond with her mother, Natalie Hawkins, her  wonderful and supportive family, friends, and her outstanding gymnastic team ( “The Fabulous Five“), and her instructors who will make sure that she has whatever she needs  for her new life.

Her success has earned her ‘a bright light and a shining star’ and a path for other girls to follow.

For  her new life, I know it will be filled with lots of love, pride, success and well earned dignity.

My congratulatory words for her –

” Thank  You Gabby, And You Continue To Go Girl ! ”

ELECTION 2012: DR. RO KNOWS: With the fate of the Supreme Court at stake, ‘No Women Left Behind’ must be the endgame for all women in this Presidential Election; women must vote!

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English: The United States Supreme Court, the highest court in the United States, in 2009. Top row (left to right): Associate Justice Samuel A. Alito, Associate Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg, Associate Justice Stephen G. Breyer, and Associate Justice Sonia Sotomayor. Bottom row (left to right): Associate Justice Anthony M. Kennedy, Associate Justice John Paul Stevens, Chief Justice John G. Roberts, Associate Justice Antonin G. Scalia, and Associate Justice Clarence Thomas. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

By: Dr. Rosetta Stith

All women of America who are eligible to vote in the Presidential Election on November 6, 2012 must be out and about that date and voting for the President of the United States.

The stakes for women could not be higher:

1.    Loss of abortion rights and a woman’s right to privacy!

On FOX News Sunday, Justice Antonin Scalia, one of the 5 conservative Justices of the Supreme Court, and of only 9 Justices on the High Court, openly declared that when the right case is presented to the Court, he will vote to strike down the Supreme Court’s decision in Roe v. Wade which protects the right of a woman to an abortion which cannot be regulated by the States.

He also declared that the Right to Privacy does not exist in the U. S. Constitution.

2.    Loss of voting rights!

Conservative advocates are demanding that the Voting Rights Act of 1965 either be repealed by Congress, or overturned by the Supreme Court.

Do you doubt what Justice Scalia probably thinks about the  constitutional validity of the Voting Rights Act?

3.    Loss of medical benefits!

The Affordable Health Care Act, passed by Congress and signed into law by President Barack Obama, assures that women will have adequate health insurance coverage and medical benefits.

But the Supreme Court barely upheld the constitutional validity of the law by a 5 to 4 vote of the Justices.

Needless to say, Justice Scalia was one of the dissenting Justices who voted to strike down the law.

                                

 

The date for this important and upcoming Presidential election for us is November 6th, 2012.

All of us need to go out and VOTE!

This Presidential Election will be the most important one in our lives, and should not be missed if we want to maintain our current rights and health services that we need.

Your vote is a ‘must do’ if we want to move forward for ourselves as women, and for our families.

Up on the target board for abolishment by the Supreme Court are women’s rights.

Again, the Presidential Election is on November 6th.

We must show up, stand out, and shout out our needs as women for ourselves and our families.

In order for us as women to continue to move forward for the next 4 years , let’s  commit ourselves and share this important voting information with family members, and friends to make November 6th ‘our must do day’ and ensure what we need as women with our votes.

Remember, as women we are better together;  the world has no tomorrows without us! 

See you at the voting booths!